The Teen Peer Advocate Program (TPAP) is comprised of young women offering community education and peer-to-peer support groups for high school girls. Trained teen peer advocates provide education and outreach to other Asian Pacific American youth at area schools, communities and other youth services. The school-based support groups offer a safe space for young women to discuss healthy relationships and prevention of dating violence.
WARNING SIGNS OF DATING VIOLENCE
Your Partner:
- Doesn't want you to have friends, frequently checks up on you
- Refuses to break up
- Gives orders, makes all the decisions, or doesn't take your opinions seriously
- Makes you worry about how his/her reactions to things you say or do
- Threatens you
- Owns or uses weapons
- Has a history of fighting, quickly loses temper, abuses animals, brags about mistreating others
- Gets too serious about the relationship too fast
- Abuses alcohol or other drugs, pressures you to take them
- Blames you for his/her mistreatment of you, says you provoked him/her
- Has a history of troubled relationships, blames previous partners
- Causes your family or friends to worry about you or your safety
MY DATING BILL OF RIGHTS*
I have the right to:
- Trust myself and my instincts
- Ask for a date
- Refuse a date
- Suggest activities
- Refuse any activities, even if my partner is excited about them
- Express my opinions and have them respected
- Be respected as a person
- Disagree
- Make mistakes
- Change my mind
- Have a partner who is faithful
- Have my limits respected
- Tell my partner I want affection
- Refuse affection
- Be listened to
- Be cared about
- Refuse sex with anyone, anytime
- Not be hit, slapped or shoved
- Not be humiliated in public or private
- Break up with someone who hurts me, even if I love him/her
- Break up with someone who hurts me, even if they love me
- Ask for help if I need it
I have the responsibility to:
- Determine my limits
- Respect other people's limits
- Communicate clearly and honestly, if it is safe
- Take care of myself
- Ask for help if I need it
*Adapted from Warning! Dating May Be Hazardous to Your Health!, Mother Courage Press, Racine, WI.
SEATTLE/KING COUNT RESOURCES: **
Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services * TDD 206-726-0093
Asian Counseling and Referral Service * 206-695-7600
Asian Pacific Islander Women & Safety Center * 206-467-9976
Chaya (South Asians) * 206-325-0325 or 1-877-92-CHAYA
Child Protective Services (CPS) * 1-800-609-8764
Children's Response Center * 425-688-5130
Chinese Information & Service Center * 206-624-5633
Communities Against Rape & Abuse * 206-322-4856
Consejo Counseling Referral Services (Latino/Hispanic) * 206-461-4880
Crisis Clinic * 206-461-3222
Domestic Abuse Women's Network (DAWN) * 425- 656-STOP (7867)
Eastside Asian Pacific Islanders * 1-877-689-4162
Eastside Domestic Violence (24 hours) * 425-746-1940 or 1-800-827-8840
Harborview Center for Sexual Assault & Traumatic Stress* 206-744-1600
King County Protection Order Advocacy Program * 206-296-9547
King County Sexual Assault & Resource Center * 425- 226-7273
Korean Community Counseling Center * 206-784-5691
New Beginnings (24 hours) * 206-522-9472
NW Network of Bisexual, Trans, Lesbian and Gay Survivors of Abuse
* 206-568-7777
Refugee Women's Alliance (ReWA) * 206-721-0243
Teen Link Hotline * 206-461-4922
WA State Coalition of Sexual Assault Programs * 360-754-7583
WA State Domestic Violence Hotline (24 hours) * 1-800-562-6025
Youth Eastside Services * 425-747-4937
Youthlink * 425-452-5254
YWCA-East Cherry (African Americans) * 206-461-4882
**Compiled by the Teen Peer Advocate Program 2007**
CONTACT INFORMATION:
Please contact (206) 695-7600 and ask for the AP ADVICE Coordinator.
